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First published on this website in December 2005 and last updated in September 2013

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This is an introduction to the issue of a church exit strategy. What do churches do when people leave? If they are moving away, most churches do the right thing in saying good-bye. But what if they are transferring to the church down the road?

The notes provide a case study of Closeknit Community Church and then present four ideas and questions to help any church consider this matter properly.

  1. Read James 2:1-13 and consider whether you are guilty of favouritism
  2. Have a policy on rites of passage (with a range of practical ideas)
  3. Have a policy for those transferring to another local church
  4. Consider how not to miss those who are slipping away.


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Please comment and add to the debate by way of support, disagreement, experience, additional points to make, etc.

These notes were updated in September 2013 with minor amendments throughout the text.

I'm not sure that I have any helpful suggestions to add other than to say that how people leave a church is tremendously important as it will probably be the last experience they have of the church and is likely to be the one they remember.

The most important thing is that the person is treated with thoughtfulness and grace by the church leadership. Not everyone wants a fanfare, but all like to know that they have been valued and should be sent on their way with blessing.

On a similar but less serious note, what about birthdays and other key life events for church members? In a large church, 'key' people sometimes have their birthdays mentioned from the front, but that does give the message to others that they are less important.

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